What is it with small town people and small mindedness. I guess at some point I was also probably like that. I grew up in a small little town about 30 min from Johannesburg. I guess the advantage that I had - was that because my mum had a business in the city we were still exposed to the big big world.
We moved away from this small town a few years ago and my my how the goalposts have changed. People that we were close friends with for what seemed like forever suddenly seem alien in their thinking. What was important to us was not important to them and vice versa. When we see them or chat on the phone it is as if they have stayed back in time and we have evolved into different people. I am not saying this in an arrogant way I am just basically highlighting the differences between people who I have grown up with and how far apart our lives have become.
I know that people change and we all grow and evolve. I often wonder what my life would have been like had we not moved away. Yes I often reminisce about my childhood but to be quite honest I am glad that I moved away and got to experience life as it is. If I had stayed in this small town I wouldn't know:
What it's like to live 5 minutes away from Eastgate. Shopping comes first. lol
I probably wouldn't have met T and would have been oh so hung up on my ex.
I probably would have been married now with a kid or two in tow.
I wouldn't know what its like to actually sacrifice and go without. An experience that has not only made me stronger but has taught me to value what I have today.
I wouldn't share this close bond with my mum and brothers.
I wouldn't have known what it's like to own a home at 23.
I wouldn't know how to appreciate having that home as it is a result of having nothing and working towards having something.
I wouldn't know how to appreciate all that I have and know that there are times when days are dark but it is the love and strength of relationships that can make it all seem better and help one pull through.
I wouldn't know that the people who you think are your closest allies are actually your biggest enemies.
I wouldn't be the strong independant woman that I am today.
Back to my topic of small-mindedness - I think its a townie thing. Their lives are governed by small talk, petty little happenings, who did what, who said this and who is scandalizing with who. I was probably like this too at some point in my life - but boy am I glad that my life is not ruled by gossip and idle country bumpkin chit chat. A thought that is just too horrible to fathom.