tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post6410045036392695985..comments2023-05-26T09:55:12.084+02:00Comments on My So Called Life....: Try and move onUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-59532299452596043552010-01-26T14:46:19.662+02:002010-01-26T14:46:19.662+02:00Oh my. I am so very sorry that it had to come to t...Oh my. I am so very sorry that it had to come to this.<br />It breaks my heart that T is incapable of puttint you- his wife- first and making your relationship work.AngelConradiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09423318903817661244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-32035456101174828702010-01-23T11:21:26.433+02:002010-01-23T11:21:26.433+02:00Hi my dear...
I have not been on blogger for such ...Hi my dear...<br />I have not been on blogger for such a very long time and was very sad to read about your woes with T---I did a catch-up session and everything that I read, was like reliving a similar situation with a very close friend of mine...<br /><br />Please, if you need someone to chat to or for some advice, etc; please do not hesitate to contact me---anytime.<br /><br />All the best and may the Almighty give you strength and patience to deal with whatever the outcome may be for you...Farzanah-(aka TheCullinaryQueen)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-62703172396628999902010-01-21T07:04:48.171+02:002010-01-21T07:04:48.171+02:00Firstly, here's a huge hug coming your way. I ...Firstly, here's a huge hug coming your way. I keep you in my prayers and Im hoping things work out for the best for you soon.<br /><br />Azra's put all my thoughts into beautiful words. I tried to say it in the last post and did a bad job of it, she's put it beautifully.<br /><br />Remember, this too shall passShamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08268907110676729102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-62322167373623763002010-01-20T16:27:29.013+02:002010-01-20T16:27:29.013+02:00Very interestng comment left by Azra. Im new to ur...Very interestng comment left by Azra. Im new to ur blog,hav read sum of old posts,but not all. is the baby's mum a muslim?and the dad?does he knw abt da baby?why dont they make nikah now?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-21436120968166527652010-01-19T09:36:23.562+02:002010-01-19T09:36:23.562+02:00This T sounds like a f@#$ing child. He should be h...This T sounds like a f@#$ing child. He should be happy you're not me, I would have become a husband-beater & bashed him to a pulp every day.<br /><br />On a serious note. I have tried not to say anything because frankly it's none of my business and I don't want to tell you what to do. But I feel a certain responsibility to impart my knowledge, and keeping quiet never helped anybody.<br /><br />I think you should have went. Let me tell you why. His mother's invitation - the occasion - was bigger than you and T and had nothing to do with you as a couple. See in life we can't always control people and their behaviour - BUT we CAN control how we react. If he wants to be an effing spoilt brat, then so be it. But it doesn't mean that you have to stoop to that level. <br /><br />I see the Mother's invitation as her way of trying to put things right - and declining is kinda like biting the hand that feeds you. Sometimes we have to put our needs and feelings and wants aside, and do what is right, regardless of how they're acting. <br /><br />You can still go to them. You still have the gift? Take it to them - go with the intention of making peace and giving respect - REGARDLESS of how they treated you in the past and whether or not you and T will get divorced. It wont mean that you're trying to be buddy-buddy with them. It will just show them that you're better than that. And don't talk about T with them. <br /><br />The main point here is do good on your part - then at least you know that you did the right thing. Then they won't have a brush to paint you as the big bad wolf because you didn't want to go to their place blah blah blah<br /><br />And maybe you don't like what I'm saying or maybe you can't comprehend the scope of what I'm telling you - but keep it in mind because one day you will understand. In life, not everything is about us and our needs and wants etc. Your best defense is to control how you react to his inane childish behaviour & their bitchiness - to keep your dignity and integrity in tact because trust me, if you do what is right, no one will have a finger to point at you and say stuff like "but we invited her and she didn't want to come" (people have a way of twisting everything to suite them). <br /><br />Do right on your part and carry on living your life. Truth is you weren't born attached to T, so you lived quite a number of years just fine without him. <br /><br />Trust that whatever happens will be for the best because Believe me when I tell you, "There is no strength and power greater than Allah's". And you don't want to be on the bad side of Our Creator. T will get what is due to him when Allah wills it (not when you want it to happen), without you lifting a finger - and the damage will be so much worse than anything you could do. <br /><br />Because the universal truth is that in life and throughout history, NO1 has EVER just done what they wanted to and gotten away with it...Every action has consequences.<br /><br />So do what is right, for the sake of Allah and no one else. Because No.1 You don't want to be a part of the punishment and wrath that waits for the wrongdoers and No.2 - Your conscience will be clear. <br /><br />And maybe all this sounds so abstract and you can't relate to it, but I promise you, I saw Allah's hand at work WITH MY OWN EYES - and after what I've been through in life, I have no reason to lie to you.<br /><br />This is what I have to tell you today. You have the knowledge now - do with it as you will.Azhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11274624534284532361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-28921321973311575312010-01-19T07:59:05.614+02:002010-01-19T07:59:05.614+02:00Thanks anon. I dont feel very strong, but I keep ...Thanks anon. I dont feel very strong, but I keep thinking that it will get better....Zeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11378623443804491546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31574372.post-90126713447218988162010-01-19T07:52:03.541+02:002010-01-19T07:52:03.541+02:00It's for the best. I've said it before, y...It's for the best. I've said it before, you deserve better than this, no use beating a dead horse, a relationship always has its ups and downs but it should never involve so much hurt and unhappiness, you will find your true match one day. <br /><br />Your posts have portrayed such strength, you will be okay dear, just keep keeping on and things will come right for you, divorce sucks but it is far better than being unhappy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com